Tips to Build a Better Profile
Your profile is your resume for online dating. Just as employers look at your resume to decide whether you are a good candidate for a job, singles will look at your profile to decide whether you are a potential match for them. A well designed profile can attract lots of dating prospects, while a poorly written one can leave you lacking for online dates.
You want to be honest and forthright in your profile, so no lying or posting outdated pics, but you also want to make sure that it is your best foot forward. Below are two invaluable tips that will improve your online profile and the amount of online attention that you receive without creating false pretenses.
Nobody likes a Debbie Downer. People want to be around positive and energetic people. Do you see the glass half empty or half full? You may not even realize you are being negative and repelling individuals. Consider this information in a sample profile:
“To be honest I have been putting off this whole online thing as long as I could. I’d heard a lot of bad stories. But I have decided to give it a try.”
This reads: I am on my last option and don’t really think I will get anything positive out of this.
Now try this one: “I’ve heard online dating is a great way to meet awesome people and that’s why I want to meet you.”
The first one oozes with negativity, while the second one sounds like lots more fun.
Read over your profile and turn all negatives into positives. Don’t say “I hate country music”; say “I love classic rock!” And instead of “I’m sick of being alone”; say “While I love my independence I want someone to share in all the fun times”. If you can’t think of a positive way to say something; leave it out!
Don’t put a generic header such as “hello” or “I’m waiting for you.” Start with something descriptive. Make it funny, romantic, philosophical; but make it truthful and indicative of your personality. Some of our favorites include: “An Officer and a Gentleman”,
Instead of using a typical description that says “I like going to the movies”, or “I want someone who can make me laugh”; be more specific. Say:
“My favorite movie is__” because _______.”
“If you are someone who laughs at Russel Peters jokes and never miss the Daily Show then this could be a fit!”
By being more specific you will also help to filter out unwanteds. Consider putting an age filter and response filter at the end of your description as well. Example: “So, if you are between the age of 25-30, love a bit of adventure and a good chuckle, this may work. Email me!”